Making the difference!

How will I make a difference?


It’s the question every graduate asks himself, on the day he leaves the college. There are many answers to this question in this tricky world. There are many paths which leads you to a successful life. But how to choose that one path based on your individuality, based on your personal goals, based on the things which you think will make this world a better place.


If you go through any path, you can make a difference. It’s not the decision of choosing the correct one. It’s the decision of choosing one. Paths are supposed to take you to a certain destination. You just have to decide for which destination you are most passionate. Having said that, let me cite a quote here. “In the end, reaching the destination isn’t what will make you happy, it’s the travel you did which led you there.”


Whatever you do to make a difference, whichever path you take to your destination. Don’t forget from where you started, don’t forget your roots. Instead of doing a post-mortem of your life in your end days and regretting the paths you didn’t take, things you didn’t do, steps you didn’t take; do a pre-mortem of your life right now to see where you had imagined yourself some years ago and where have you reached now. Keep doing this in a regular practice. If your trajectory is still in right direction, then great. If not, then it’s time to list down the things which you might have done wrongly, which led your life course towards a deviated direction. Jot those things down on a piece of paper, read them, read them again and again until you reach a conclusion. Then you start working on rectifying those things, step by step. Don’t rush, just be steady and take action. Acting upon something, even in a tiny bit is any day better then just sitting and thinking about a better solution.


Knowing what matters and what doesn’t, is the key to be successful in any task. It eventually leads you to the answers of any impossible looking problem. But for reaching there you’ll have to act. For example, for an obese person  loosing weight is a problem. He can’t leave out on the cravings of eating junk foods. He thinks everyday that he will start exercising. He knows what will make a difference in regards to his problem of obesity. But all of this knowing is of no value if he doesn’t act. On the flip side if he start acting on the things which really matters, like eating appropriate calories on daily basis. Start exercising 3-4 days in a week and then shaping his way up to a fit body. This is what will solve his problem.


Don’t just think, take action!


Life will be way better if you start doing what really matters. You’ll be reaping great returns, which life gives to it’s courageous liver.


Every generation leaves a plethora of knowledge and resources for the upcoming generation to build upon what they had learned, so that the future generation don’t have to start from the ground up, they can just forge ahead from the point where the past generation had left of. So take your time listening to the people of your previous generation. People who had experienced life already. People who can really guide you on how to make that journey of life better. It can give you a head-start. Love your family, cherish you friends, take time out for the people whom you really care for, be emotional, take time out for the people who had supported you in the times of setbacks. How you make them feel will reflect on your future life. There is a famous quote by the great American author and poet Maya Angelou who died on this 28th May. I’ll cite it here in her remembrance and for your absorbency.


“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

So take a path which ignites your passion, work hard, put your emotions in there, take time out for the ones you really care. I bet you’ll be right on your way to make a difference to your own life and to the world.

Emotions are the key to courage and alive!

We start feeling emotions from the very first day we get into our consciousness. We laugh with our friends share our joyous moments. We cry when someone breaks our heart. We feel low when someone goes away. We feel high when we are with the right ones on the right time. These all feelings are emotions. But what it is exactly? Is it human nature? Is it a way of interaction without having to say a word? Is it a deep connection of two souls which lights up the spiritual recesses? May be it’s all of them. But specifically it’s the outcome of mutual state of minds. When two souls or minds co-relate, then emotions emerge.

Emotions are present in each and everyone. Different persons picture it in their own way. Some say “It’s weak to be emotional. Emotions can distract you from the decisions you want to take for good.” I won’t deny it, but it’s not entirely true. A great mind had said, nothing is false, everything we see, we hear, we feel is truth. Cause everyone and everything has their own angle to the truth. In some situations it seems to be true but in other situations it may seem false. Here, another angle to the truth is that emotions are a very powerful feeling.

I’ve seen people going extreme in emotions, both in a good way and a bad way. But if you can channel this feeling in the right way, you can do great things to your life. If you love what you do, then you unknowingly put your emotions in that thing and this is what gives you courage in those moments of the reverse wind. When the things aren’t falling in the right place, this is what keeps you going. Emotions are in there in your subconscious all the time. They keep you motivated.

Being emotional is a good thing and a bad thing. Let’s talk about the good thing first. Good thing is that it is the key to your courage in those low moments of life and it’s a key to being human. When we are emotional we do things with extremity. Like I said earlier if this extremity is channelized in positivity, out come will be great and positive for your life. Bad thing is sometime being emotional can distract you from taking the right decisions and emotions are channelized in negativity, which can make life really miserable.

From the experience I’ve had is, people who are emotional are mostly good at heart. But we should keep in mind that being emotional and being psychotic are way different things. While being emotional we shouldn’t forget the practicality of the situation. Emotion is a human nature and Psychosis is a disorder. Emotional people are people who still can see the real picture and can adapt to the situation while being in that feeling.

Having some emotions towards our family and friends and the work we do, greatly enhance our relations, boost up our creativity, makes us alive. What is alive? Alive is a state of mind. A person can be breathing but still not alive, yes that’s possible. Until and unless he have emotions and feelings, he is way too far from being alive. Life isn’t about just being biologically and physically alive, but emotionally and mentally alive. Emotions are good but discipline is a great ingredient in the recipe of life. Life we really want is a mix of little emotions, great discipline and self-compassion.
Having said all of that, there should be a practical philosophy which everyone should follow. This can make you better human being while being an emotional person. Our own values are itself very valuable. We should always let our values drive our decisions. Recently I was watching an interview of Tim Ferriss on Mastering Any Skill. Tim had given a great advise. I’ll cite him as stated – “The way I look at philosophy is, ideally it’s an operating system for life, for making decision about what you should do and what you should not do.”.
So the whole point here is we should leverage ourselves to be emotional cause it makes us alive, but at the same time we shouldn’t let our values fade away, we should follow a practical philosophy, which will eventually make our lives better and us alive.